Dating before marriage length
But don’t just take your boyfriend or girlfriend’s word for it. That same study said that people who dated a very long time before marriage—like a number of years—were also less likely to stay married.
In fact, they tended to divorce quicker than those with short courtships.
The First Epistle to the Corinthians states "Flee from sexual immorality" and lists adulterers and "those who are sexually immoral"/practicing-fornicators in a list of "wrongdoers who... The Apostolic Decree of the Council of Jerusalem also includes a prohibition of fornication.
That’s actually the preferred situation, because then you have multiple sets of eyes confirming that this person is who they appear to be.
Or, a couple may be “in a relationship” for a decade, finally get married, and then split up in the first year.
It really depends on the people involved, and the reasons why they get married when they do. Most people realize that you shouldn’t get married too quickly after meeting someone, and the one long-term study I’ve found on the subject seems to back that up.
John Piper is founder and teacher of desiring and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary.
For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota.It is sad to watch so many women in the media be drawn by the demands of men into a more animalistic way of treating sex than in this holistic, personal way.